Painful Sex: Care Instructions

Overview

Painful sex can include pain before, during, or after sex. It can be caused by many things, such as an injury, an infection, or a growth on the genitals or internal sex organs. Or maybe you have muscle spasms. In some cases, the pain is caused by another medical condition.

Some medicines or menopause can cause dryness in the vagina. This dryness can make sex painful.

Talk to your doctor about what might be causing your painful sex. Treatment may help.

Follow-up care is a key part of your treatment and safety. Be sure to make and go to all appointments, and call your doctor if you are having problems. It's also a good idea to know your test results and keep a list of the medicines you take.

How can you care for yourself?

Here are some things you can try that may help.

• Use a lubricant during sex, such as Astroglide or K-Y Jelly. Lubricants can be water-, silicone-, or oil-based. Ask your doctor about what kind may be a better option for you.
• Increase the time you and your partner spend touching each other before sex. This is called foreplay.
• Try different positions for sex to find the most comfortable ones.
• Ask your doctor about exercises for your pelvic muscles.
• Before sex, take a warm bath. This can relax you and reduce anxiety.
• If your doctor prescribes any medicines, take them exactly as prescribed. Call your doctor if you think you are having a problem with your medicine.
• Take care of your mental health, and get support if you need it. Having pain with sex can affect many aspects of your life, including your mental health. Talk to your doctor if you are feeling sad or anxious and it is not getting better. Support can also come from a counselor, support group, or trusted friend or family member.

Watch closely for changes in your health, and be sure to contact your doctor if you have any problems.